An Observation

If there's one turn of phrase that I am known, well, it's most likely Terrible Bargain. But when there's another phrase that I am known, it's: I am not upset I am contemptuous.For reasons which i most likely don't have to show anybody who's been having to pay attention, I have recently been taking into consideration the ways that accusations of anger (or fury, or rage, or whatever versions thereof) are utilized as discrediting methods in the same manner accusations of offense are.And in the same manner that marginalized individuals are charged with being upset, when what we should are actually are is contemptuous, marginalized individuals are frequently charged with being angry, when what we should actually are is frustrated.Don't misunderstand me: I've nothing against anger on the contrary, I've found anger could be helpful, and necessary, and also the cause of progress.But you will find lots of occasions I'm charged with being angry (as though this is a bad factor) when I am not really angry—and I observe that happening to numerous marginalized people, especially women of each and every and then any intersectional identity. We're ignored beyond control as angry, if we are really frustrated—usually because we're being obliged to experience games around getting our resided experience audited having a validity prism being wielded with a fortunate individual who erroneously sees themselves being an Objective Arbiter, who's, by doing this, literally frustrating our capability to assert expertise by ourselves awareness.Frustration isn't anger. (Even though it certainly has the ability to morph into anger, or exist together by using it.) Frustration is "a sense of dissatisfaction, frequently supported by anxiety or depression, caused by unfulfilled needs or conflicting problems."That's the one thing I'm feeling after i am that appears to be known as angry. Overwhelming dissatisfaction consequently from the cyclical and systemic insufficient being heard, respected, treated being an equal.So, towards the lexicon of helpful phrases I add this: I am not angry I am dissatisfied.